Are you able to see patterns in your life experience? I discovered this concept in Richard Bach’s Book “One.” At the time, frankly, I didn’t get it, but I was in my thirties and didn’t have the maturity unfolded to see them. Discovering patterns takes a bit of maturing along with the experiences that make maturity unfold. I was okay with that.
Seeing the patterns in life is helpful if you’re a stay–at–home mom, a teacher, an entrepreneur, or perhaps work in the medical field, because this understanding helps you move from subjective emotions to objective peace of mind – that state of rest and joy we all crave and enjoy when it happens.
Each one reading this article has the identical quality of life within – pure goodness – within the core of her being. It takes a while to discover this. Initially, we live via comparisons: comparing where we live to where others live; comparing what we wear with what the cool girls wear; comparing our scholarly accomplishments with those of our peers; and trying like crazy to keep up with our older sibling’s accomplishments. Remember?
If we’re not told how good we are by our parents, family, friends, teachers or ministers, how is it possible for a growing–up mind to encompass these ideas? If you received parental approval growing up, you were most lucky. Some have to dig a bit to discover it by herself. Having this level of acceptance helps us to avoid the self–questioning doubt which weakens our sense of Self. We crave “being normal” but we know we are not. We want to be “in” with the normal crowd. We become sensitive in our not fitting in and it’s most uncomfortable. We ask ourselves “What’s wrong with me?” “What did I do wrong?” We want to know and embrace our own individuality and know that this is normal.
If you are a seeker, working to become comfortable with yourself, an individual human being, you may have chosen some paths toward self–discovery:
· reading self–help books
· joining self–help groups
· changing religions
· becoming a rebel
· group therapy
And experiences. Lots of experiences. You prefer not to discuss your choice of experience with family or friends because you know they’d disapprove, and you crave the learning these experiences bring to you. You might have been the sort of woman to adapted to the nurturing, serving, mothering role, but eventually you discovered the I of You wasn’t included in that model! You knew that you weren’t being served. You felt challenged in asking yourself questions such as:
· “What do I want?”
· “What can I do?”
· “Where do I want to go?”
· “How can I accomplish this?”
You had a history of ”accepting the way it is.” It is possible to go along to get along for a while, but eventually, your Self questions continued to throb inside you, demanding answers, and you could see clearly that your demands a fresh look, maybe a do–over.
There are four questions you can ask yourself when you reach this point:
· Sez who?
· How old was I when I decided this was the right way?
· Is my decision still valid?
· What would I like to change?
Once you recognize these patterns in your life, there is only one thing required for improvement and that one thing is your approval. Why not? Based on the intrinsic goodness within your being, all that you have experienced, all that you have thought, all the doings that you have done have some ’good’ within them because they brought you to this place where change now seems imperative.
Because of your life experiences, you have strengthened your virtue set. You might not be conscious of it, but look at courage. Haven’t you become more courageous over the years? Are you not more self–sufficient than you were twenty years ago? Do you not love the good more than you ever have before? Can you see the role patience is playing in your life? What about purity and morality? And reason? Are you now a more careful thinker than you’ve ever been? Your virtue set is now ready to support you in your next life endeavors, those strong desires you really, really want to manifest in your life.
The only limitations around what you now desire in a new way of life are those you create yourself. Goodness (remember, it’s within you) has no limitations, so don’t make any up! Move forward for yourself. Know that you can, because you can! Get busy and create some new patterns.
Pat Matson’s path of life’s unfoldment has led her into the world of copywriting where she lends her expertise to the writing of blogs, ezines, curriculum and articles with a common sense message for entrepreneurs, especially life coaches or spiritual coaches. Pat loves to bring the story inside her clients representing their businesses out into the world that needs it so. In addition to her copywriting, Pat is a Walter Method Teacher of metaphysics where she helps illuminate Life’s Laws for her students. Pat’s Write Mind is her home base.