All You Have to Fear…is Making a Big Mess (and, maybe, treating war wounds later)

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by Tamara Kaye Sellman

pressure_cookerLast month I wrote about my purchase of a pressure cooker and my desire to make refried beans.

Of course, it hasn’t happened yet. Now I know why.

There are certain devices in my culinary arsenal that I generally don’t use, though my husband uses them. They include things that promise large blasts of heat or smoke or power-tool like effects: the gas grill, the Li’l Chief smoker, the salamander (that little blow torch you use for crème brulee), the pressure canner, and now, the pressure cooker.
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Women of excellence: be your amazing self

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Finding a good match for a mate (or even a date) seems to be a dilemma for many women—especially a woman over 40 who’s confident, focused, decisive, wise, independent, attractive and ambitious, and in many cases fearless. This combination can scare some men off. However, there are men who are seeking a woman of excellence with all of those qualities.
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Fighting Fair in 5 Easy Steps

Comments (0) Relationships/Marriage/Divorce

In the daily course of our lives disagreements are bound to arise and oftentimes they can erupt into violent arguments where our mouths become lethal weapons, injuring or even destroying a relationship.

You can choose to be reactive or proactive. If you choose to be reactive, you will most likely be on the defensive, stocking your arsenal of remarks that will never lead to a win-win situation.

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Secrets of Sales Success

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‘Making the Sale’ is the end result of what you and your business team do cumulatively.   Sales techniques are often defined by specific words or actions at the conclusion of a ‘sales’ dialogue.  When you consider all the aspects of your Company’s persona, you come to realize that the sum is indeed made up of many parts… Knowledge, Belief, Understanding, Promotion, Communication, the action of the Sale, and  Feedback.

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Flowers that Pop Up!

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Hi everyone!!! Today I want to share some layouts I did of the flowers on the Ranch. We so look forward to Spring to see all the different kinds of flowers that pop up. We never know what we will find and it seems every year is different.

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Are You Easily Distracted?

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This month, several of my life coaching clients are feeling overwhelmed by the abundance of distractions showing up in their lives,  and the limited amount of time available to participate in each experience.  Too many choices and “Shiny Lures” seem to be everywhere causing acute experiences of pleasure and pain.   These powerful women want to have it all,  but occasionally get lost in the land of potent distraction.  Here are some ways you can address the anxiety surrounding an attractive diversion, get clear about your choices, and move forward on the path of your choosing.

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No More Papers on Me

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I stared at the papers repeatedly, expecting to feel something different each time. They were signed, certified and official. They were legal documents that indicated I was officially free, so why did I feel… nothing?

My marriage had been over long before it officially ended. The covenant had been broken. The vows had been long forgotten. The promises had not been kept. After being separated for several years, in my heart, I was already divorced. All the papers did were to confirm my newly official status. I was now a divorcee. Divorced. Unmarried. The marriage was dissolved. I had moved from one statistical category to another within the split seconds that it took for the judge to sign and stamp them.

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Rachel Ray ~ Can You Top This?

Comments (0) Food and Drink, Home and Garden

This morning,after having my coffee and 2 bites of a muffin, I decided to do some meal preparation for the week.  As I applied myself to my usual multi-tasking procedure, I smiled to myself thinking,” I wonder what Rachel Ray would have to say about this?”

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Family Relationships – A Journey

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Relationships in family are important to most people on the planet. In my family, we tend to be independent, go our own way, live our own lives, but our parents still hold ties to each of us.  Other families tend to stay physically close and very involved in each other’s lives but ours didn’t work out that way.

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Wow! Showing Up Can Be So Awesome!

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Just Ask

Last night I SHOWED up at a new Chamber Mixer, one that I had never been to. So I thought since it was being held at Guadalajara Restaurant in Lake Elsinore, CA and I had not been there, I thought I should SHOW UP and check it out.

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Do You Know How to Market Your Business?

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There are so many people that just throw around the word marketing and really do not have a full grasp of what the word really means. Think about it – ask yourself, how do you define marketing? I read a book called “Mind Capture” by Tony Rubleski –in his book Tony states “Marketing is the oxygen of every successful business”. He is exactly right – I don’t care how great you product, service, or anything else is, if you do not market your business, then nobody will know about it – and if nobody know about your business do you really think you will be successful?

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Nature on the Ranch!

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Hi everyone, I’m so excited to be a guest blogger for Kalon.  I live on a ranch  in Texas and have the opportunity to take some awesome photos.   I love to use those unique photo’s in my art.  I find it is a way for me to share  the “ranch ” life with you city folk.

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Is Your Ego Holding You Back?

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I must say – I really had to struggle with this one…

I have always been a person who prides themselves in listening to my clients. I also know I have a great eye for style and design (that is where the trouble comes in). Art is subjective and so not everyone will like everything someone designs or has designed.

That is just a reality.

As a professional designer – I tend to want my personal designs/websites etc. to lean toward the dramatic, that is something I enjoy designing as well as looking at – that is who I am.
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What Color is Your Business

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Color Affects Our Lives
Colors evoke emotions
Color communicates

Having been an artist long before I ever touched a computer I knew instinctively the power different colors had on my emotions. It wasn’t until (over a decade ago) when I decided to combined art with technology that I found out how powerful using the proper colors for you marketing collateral can be.

Studies show that shapes and colors affect people in different ways. Use them properly in your company logos, ad copy, and website and you’ll beat the competition.
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The Value of Social Media – In Business, In Life…

Comments (0) Business, Entrepreneurs

It’s a funny thing, when I first started hearing about web 2.0 it seemed like a foreign language, and now that I have stuck my toe into the river – I absolutely love it.

I have (finally!) figured out what social media sites work best for my business and I am still discovering great new ways to connect online.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am still learning and am yet to add some social bookmarking sites to my “tool box” when you are working with the internet you will be learning forever – nobody knows everything “Guaranteed”!

I have found that there is so much value in the connections you make with these networks, when you do it the “right way”.
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To Date or to Dine Alone

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What’s a newly divorced mom with two children to do when she finds herself alone on a Saturday night? The question is pressing if you’re over 40, looking to date and new to the dating scene after being married for a number of years. The whole idea of dating again might even feel intimidating. The fact is, there’s no golden rule that dictates when or even if you should date. But if you do decide to get back out there and explore the dating game, make sure you’re spending your time the way YOU want to spend it. In other words, remember that your time is valuable.

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Online Dating over 40

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After the death of my husband over 2 years ago I finally re-entered the dating world after 18 years of being away from it.  Now in my 40’s I wasn’t sure about what to expect.  Would men still find me attractive? (I am the mother of twin boys now – stretch marks and all.)  Would I remember what to do on a first date? Where do you go on a first date? What was I really looking for in a date?

At the prompting of one of my best friends I began by trying online dating.  My friend knows I live online and thought it would be a great way to begin the process.  She was right. I created a really nice profile about who I was and the things I liked on a popular dating website.  I focused on being positive and projecting an upbeat image.  I read some of the suggestions about what type of photo to post and then I took a picture of myself with the camera on my laptop.  I had fun with it and I was laughing in most of my photos. I put up my photos and prepared to wait.
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One of Life’s Saddest Truths

Comments (2) Boomer Life, Relationships/Marriage/Divorce

If we live long enough we will all lose a parent – and though it is inevitable it doesn’t take the sting out. I recently lost my father and though he was sick for a while I always knew he was there sitting in his easy chair or tinkering in the basement on his latest invention.

The loneliness and heartache of it all is truly breathtaking – and I have had to step back from my business a bit because honestly, it puts everything into perspective. All the success in the world will not replace my dad – and so it goes, he was proud of me and through his struggles of alcoholism (he had been sober for the last 25 yrs) and life’s great challenges he was always “my daddy”.
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7 Crucial Steps to Creating a Prosperous Business

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1. Hire experts to do what you are not good at! If you are an expert in your field and really good at what you do – why waste your time trying to figure out how to do things you

a. Don’t know… b. Are not good at… c. Don’t have time for…

For example, I love designing websites and marketing materials, as an artist, I just love it. I happened to be born with an artistic gene, I am an expert at designing and developing websites that are marketing machines. I have been in this industry for over a decade. I have experience so I am a great consultant. I can draw up marketing plans like nobodies business, but…
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Are you adding some FUN to your life?

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I don’t know about YOU but I am a type A personality, which means that before I started to add FUN to my life I worked Day and Night. I was the person that did say I was going to block time for ME and then someone would come along and need my help and the next think I knew my time was gone.

In the last year many of my NAFE members have been diagnosed with Cancer and other things, and many were YOUNG and it got me thinking that if I did not take time for ME than I probably would not be around to do the work that I love, and that is help others, as that is my passion, to help YOU soar to greatness.
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Why is social media important in business?

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Social media provides virtually instant access to information throughout the world, thus giving businesses the ability to share news about their products and services with people that were once out of reach. Social media is easily one of the fastest growing (free) benefits of technology today. Not very long ago, businesses were limited to connections with contacts within their neighborhood or at best, their country. The door is now open to share your business with the world.

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Am I Going Crazy?

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Menopause Mania

“Sandy, I just feel so out of it – discombobulated – like I’m not myself and I really think there is something wrong with me. Sometimes, I think I’m going crazy – and my husband agrees with me,” my dear friend Mary Ellen said to me over the phone one morning. “I feel guilty because all I do is whine to my family and friends about it. None of them want to hear me whine, and they don’t understand or know how to help me.” I could tell that she was almost in a state of panic because of how she was feeling – but more so – because she couldn’t understand why she was feeling this way.
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