In speaking with clients over the past few months, I found that time and time again they were dismayed to find themselves back in the same hole they had worked so hard to get out of. There isn’t just one challenge that faces individuals trying to get financially healthy, but rather several common mistakes that collectively seem to steer individuals off track. I want to take this opportunity over the next several months to map out some common errors and make suggestions to help you find solutions that will put you back on a successful path! (more…)
A cat retreated from the porch as Gus approached the back door. Making a mental note to put some scraps out and to hang the birdfeeder out of reach, he entered the kitchen just as the last drop of coffee splashed into the pot.
“I was beginning to wonder if you’d started your day off early!” Theresa chided, grabbing her cup and sliding into a chair.
“Not a chance.” Gus smiled.
Theresa continued filling their cups. “Planning to visit the guys in the city today?”
“Haven’t decided yet…” Gus evaded. “What’re your plans?” (more…)
I have wanted to be skinny for as long as I can remember. That has always been the unspoken goal and it has been a struggle for most of my life from childhood all the way through to adulthood. I’m certain that I’m not alone in that. That I’m not the only woman who has wasted an incredible amount of her precious time agonizing over her weight and the size of her jeans. It is just the world we live in. We are bombarded with images and ideas that confirm the notion that we are supposed to be thin. That definition of “THIN” has changed a bit over time, but it is still there. Thin is good, not thin is bad. Every tv show, magazine cover, movie and now social media reinforces this idea whether we talk about it or not. Fortunately, I see the women in my generation very carefully trying to re-define what self-love looks like for our daughters. We are careful not to talk about dieting and we strategically try to model healthy habits without making SKINNY the goal. Only time will tell how effective this campaign is, but I can tell you that it is an uphill battle when the rest of the world is still sending our kids the same mixed messages. (more…)
Everyone has those days. You’re operating in a fog, or perhaps you spaced out on a family member’s name in the middle of dinner, or maybe you just find it hard to concentrate on work or hobbies. When these unwanted situations begin to come up more often, you may start to worry. Aging has long been associated with a slow mental decline.
The good news is there are simple things you can do to clear the cobwebs and regain your focus. Dr. Mike Dow, a psychotherapist and best-selling author, says we often don’t realize the brain is just like the heart, our muscles, our lungs and bones — it needs maintenance, and healthy habits to help keep it working at its very best. (more…)
A hundred years ago, few thought that the clunky automobile that broke down so often would ever replace a horse. In the 1970s, people wondered if the personal computer that a few eccentrics were using would have any use beyond storing recipes. It’s safe to say that these innovations, along with many of the technologies we now use daily, were once considered impossible dreams.
Right now, the most-talked-about piece of technological innovation that is poised to transform our lives is the autonomous or self-driving car. As self-driving cars gain widespread adoption, analysts are predicting the rise of what is known as the passenger economy — a term coined by Intel — that is expected to be worth $7 trillion by 2050 as validated in a new report by analyst firm Strategy Analytics. (more…)
In October 2017, the University of Virginia announced the hiring of the first African-American woman ever brought in as an Athletic Director at one of the 64 power five conference schools. As the hiring of Carla Williams indicates, women are involved in sports as athletes as well as in other positions. In this month’s column, we feature women who have contributed to sports as officials, as administrators, and in other non-performing positions, although many of them were athletes or had athletic careers as well. (more…)
When you chose the graphics for your business “way back when,” you loved them. Folks have gotten used to seeing them. Perhaps it’s time to give things a fresh look. I’ll bet you could find new graphics that equally fit the bill as your old ones did. You’ll feel better about it, and so will your clients and potential clients.
Create a new Facebook Header. Your header shows up a lot when you share your business on other groups. Think about the fresh new look you want to see and find a graphic artist to do it up for you. Fiverr is a great place to hire a graphic artist at less than exorbitant rates. Perhaps a new logo might be in store? (more…)
I woke up this morning, opened the newspaper and read the tragic news of 2 young women killed in a grisly car accident the night before. These young ladies were 17 and 18 years old respectively. I looked at their photos, obviously taken during happier times and thought of all they would never experience.
And then the thought hit me: they lost themselves so very young, whereas I’ve been losing myself by bits and pieces throughout DECADES. A sad realization I’m sure I share with many Midlife women and men. (more…)
A few weeks ago while strolling through Facebook, I came across this hashtag #MeToo (in the weeks following when The New York Times and The New Yorker first broke stories of the Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein’s decades-long abuse of women he worked with) and began to see post after post of women using the same hashtag in their timelines. Then, actual stories of way too many women (some I knew, some only through Facebook) using the same hashtag began to populate my news feed. I kept thinking to myself, this can’t be true. There can’t be this many women affected by abuse. But there it was, in black and white, glaring at me and saying DO SOMETHING! So, I reached out to several women who were brave enough to share their stories with KW Magazine. Their stories follow, and I want to thank them all for their strength and courage! I hope their stories help others who cannot express it in writing… (more…)
‘The twists and turns of life can be daunting, despairing- disconcerting, especially during Midlife. When all hope is lost, it’s often in this desperate, pivotal moment that life chooses to renew, rebirth, reinvent and reinvigorate…
Kalon Women Magazine’s new mystery series ‘Becoming Billie’ draws upon this truth and leads readers on a dark and harrowing journey, through the smoky NYC and Chicago jazz scene, seedy ‘dives’ and bloody alleyways – battered and broken hearts – and eventually – to simple new beginnings in the town of Weehawken NJ.
Join Laurie Allyn each month for a fresh installment and let ‘Becoming Billie’ weave its web of intrigue, deception, murder and triumph… you’ll be glad you did!’
Becoming Billie – Chapter One
So many lives lived in a parallel universe – never meeting, or knowing that the other exists – until circumstances intervene.
For two strangers, this parallel universe is about to collide in a cataclysmic way that will alter each of their lives forever….
Augustus ‘Gus’ Walker and his daughter Theresa attended an early Mass, lit a candle and now stood by a small headstone, the carved Angel’s head bent over the words, ‘Mary Elizabeth Walker, Beloved Wife and Mother- Gone to be with Jesus’.
A light rain was starting to fall but they lingered, each reflecting on the two years since Mary had died.
Theresa held her father’s hand and softly said, “Come on Dad, we’d better get you home for a nap before work.”
Gus nodded, his eyes still closed.
At that same moment, 5 miles away, an ambulance was pulling up to Madison General Hospital. The medics carefully wheeled in the battered, bloodied body of a woman. No identification accompanied her. Wearing only one shoe, her cocktail dress soiled and ripped, she painted a picture of happy times gone horribly, horribly wrong. The ER admission process began and soon she was wheeled into a curtained cubicle for triage.
The rain was tapering off as Gus eased into his parking place. The wiper blades kept time to the tune on the radio:
‘It’s like reaching for the Sun.
It’s like reaching for the Moon.
It’s like reaching for the Stars – Reaching for You…’
Gus didn’t know one singer from another but let the words wash over him in a poignant reminder of just how desperately he missed his wife. Two years hadn’t dented the loneliness. If anything it was becoming worse.
It was difficult keeping it bottled inside but he didn’t want to burden Theresa. She’d given up her career to be there; first for Mary- and now for him. She never complained about moving back to the house she’d grown up in, yet he wondered how much she missed big city life. Each of them had made major changes when Mary was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
After his years in the Army, it seemed natural to enter law enforcement. He’d worked his way through the NYPD rising to the rank of Detective. He’d found the work intriguing– and had even been instrumental in bringing a few cold cases to justice. But Gus had taken early retirement to be with Mary throughout the final agonizing days and never looked back.
He switched off the ignition, squeezed the crucifix of Mary’s rosary he carried in his pocket- a ritual he never missed before every shift – and stepped out on to the wet pavement, avoiding the puddles. His heavy black Rothco’s did their job. They’d served him well, seen him through much… like Mary’s rosary had helped him hold it all together.
The automatic doors swung open. Fluorescent lights shook him into awareness. He walked into the ER entrance. He was now Gus Walker, Security Guard, Madison General Hospital.
The night Duty Nurse looked up from the roster.
“Good evening Gus. … still raining?’
‘Hi, Rhonda. Not so much now but it sure was a frog-strangler drivin’ in.’
She smiled – ‘Stop by the break room – I think the coffee’s still warm and there’s cake left over from Pat’s birthday – chocolate and rich! That oughta warm you up!’
‘Thanks. -Not tonight… I’m off my feed.’ Gus winced.
The contents of a half empty whiskey bottle under his bed was the culprit and although he’d never gone to any job ‘under the influence’, the influence had taken another route now bordering on an ulcer.
‘Ok…more for me!’ Rhonda laughed. ‘Oh- by the way, we have a new ‘visitor’ in ICU. Came in this morning in a bad way. They think it’s drug related and she’s really busted up. But you’ll probably check that out on your rounds.’
Gus nodded and began down the hallway.
First Floor. Always quiet. Just the Admittance Desk, the darkened gift shop and empty cafeteria. Custodians were mopping the floors and vacuuming the billing office.
Gus checked the main front doors and then took the stairs to the second floor. No one was at the desk.
Down the hall he looked into a room where a young patient was playing a game on his iPad.
Gus rounded the corridor and heard agitated voices. Passing the other darkened rooms he came upon a young nurse desperately trying to quiet an older man who was belligerent.
‘What’s goin’ on here?’ Gus asked in an authoritative voice.
‘Oh, Mr. Walker’ the young nurse exclaimed. ‘…I’m so glad you’re here! Mr. Ward’s insisting on going home and that’s just not possible.’
Gus guided the frail Alzheimer’s patient back to bed. His uniformed presence put a comforting light on the situation and soon the old man was asleep in his bed. Gus stayed for a few more minutes to make certain all was well and then proceeded on his rounds.
He checked the doors to the operating theaters and moved on to ICU. Most of the occupied rooms were now dark, but for one. This room was lit. It was difficult to distinguish much about the human under the blanket. A nurse joined Gus by the door.
‘It’s always so sad- this hovering between life and death.’ she sighed. ‘This one in particular. You’d think as sedated as she is, she wouldn’t make a sound. Funny thing is – not the usual moaning one might expect….it’s more like – well…humming.’
‘Are you sure it wasn’t the radio? Gus questioned.
“Well, I did have the radio on…VERY softly – but I swear the humming was coming from her and it was the same tune!’
Gus breathed in – and then out. For a fleeting moment, he thought of Mary and how much she’d loved music. It’d kept her alive during the worst.
He swallowed hard and replied ‘Well, they say it soothes the savage beast…’
With this, he continued on his rounds….
Don’t miss the next chapter of ‘Becoming Billie’ in our January 2018 Issue
© copyright 2017-2018 Laurie Allyn all rights reserved
Laurie Allyn is a professional jazz singer with a storied past. Singing in smoky clubs in Chicago during the 1950’s and 60’s, she went on to record an album in Hollywood. When the recording label went bankrupt, she turned her attention to professional modeling. Now living outside Seattle, she writes mysteries and continues her singing career.
What do you think of when I say the word “running” or “jogging”? Does it elicit thoughts of freedom and strength? Your mind clearing as you hit the open road and push yourself to go faster and longer? Or do you think of miserably trying to push yourself a few more steps while every part of your body screams at you to stop? People often say that you either love running or you hate it. We tend to talk about it like there is no in between. I would like to suggest that there can be more of a gray area. If you don’t absolutely love it you do not, in fact, have to hate it. You might even grow to enjoy it!
If you are on a mission to get healthy and fit it can be overwhelming trying to decide where to start. There are so many options, but running can be one of the cheapest and most convenient places to begin. Some people may cringe as they read that, but stick with me! It is a great way to burn calories and improve cardiovascular fitness as it boosts confidence and eliminates stress along the way. (more…)
The change has been gradual but notable & carries over to retirement planning.
More women have become the primary wage earners in their households. Generations ago, life and financial roles were cut and dried according to gender. Man: breadwinner. Woman: homemaker. Those stereotypes have, thankfully, shattered. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 38% of women in heterosexual marriages now earn more than their husbands. Thirty years ago, less than one-quarter did.1
The Great Recession of 2007-09 may have contributed to this shift. In June 2010, Department of Labor data showed that nearly 22% of American men aged 25-65 were unemployed. In addition, 16.6% of all Americans were in the “underemployed” population, either jobless or working less than 40 hours per week; it is reasonable to assume that men made up roughly half of that demographic.2 (more…)
Last week, while visiting over lunch, my friend looked at me -with tears in her eyes- and proceeded to tell me how terribly frustrated she was and she didn’t know what to do…
When I asked the details, she told me about the weight struggles she’d battled consistently for the past decade. It seems she had been to numerous doctors and each one had lectured her about not exercising enough – consuming too many calories – or not having enough discipline. Each one then placed her on a stringent diet—none of which worked—and all of which made her feel more and more like a failure.
After listening to her story, I asked her when her weight issues had begun. She told me they had started in her mid-forties. I then asked her when her Menopause process had started. She again stated her mid-forties. (See a pattern forming here?) (more…)
I’m really starting to get bad cellulite and am feeling depressed. Why is this happening? Is there anything I can do to help it? I exercise and watch what I eat but nothing’s helping.
Lynda M. of Santa Cruz, CA (more…)
The holidays are the perfect time to entertain, but the thought can also be somewhat daunting since we are all so busy this time of the year. I love doing a beautiful cheese platter or charcuterie board. It’s really easy to pull together, can serve a crowd and everything included can be at room temperature, so you, as the hostess can relax and enjoy your party. There really are no hard and fast rules, but I wanted to share and few guidelines with you to get you started. And here are some fun recipes you can add to your platters or take to a party as a gift for your host. Enjoy the holidays. Eat, drink and be merry!
Depending on the size of the crowd you will be serving, you can assemble your offerings on any number of different things. Use your imagination, get creative. I have used pizza peels, bread boards, large white platters, large chunks of wood cut from stumps, and even brown paper running the entire length of the table. (more…)
If you live in the United States, you surely know the Christmas traditions from this country. And you also know the traditions in place when you were a child. And you know the traditions you’ve got in place right now in your family.
Would you enjoy changing things up a bit this year? Maybe dropping off one that doesn’t hold much meaning any more for you and adding something new? Would you like to learn with other countries have as their traditions? How might you use these ideas to establish new traditions in your family? (more…)
National Statuary Hall in the United States Capitol building in Washington, D.C., contains 100 statues – two from each state. Of that total, nine are women. In this month’s column we feature Jeannette Rankin (Montana), Dr. Florence Sabin (Colorado), Sakakawea (North Dakota – whom we often know as Sacagawea), Frances Willard (Illinois), Sarah Winnemucca (Nevada) and Helen Keller (Alabama), all of whom have been inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame. The other three women represented by statues are Mother Joseph (Washington), Esther Hobart Morris (Wyoming) and Maria Sanford (Minnesota). (more…)
On the Temple of Delphi there are 147 maxims carved. Probably one of the well-remembered ones is “Know thyself.” Socrates added his two cents in when he said “To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.”
What would it take to fully know your Self? What would you have to do to begin such a process or to extend one if you’ve already begun? I think we could all agree that such a journey would be toward self-awareness as a net result.
Do you know that your emotions all show up on your face as you feel them? Did you know every pound of fat you carry requires seven miles of blood vessels? Are you aware you’re taller in the morning vs. the evening? Did you know your bones are as strong as granite? You will have shed 40 pounds of skin in your lifetime. You could only see black and white when you were born. (more…)
For years I’ve educated women about not only acne in general, but Midlife acne specifically. There’s so much more to it than ‘fighting It all over again’.
If you read my articles regularly, you’ve heard me say over and over and over again ad nauseum: focusing just on the outer surface of the skin is sheer folly. If you wish to have healthy, radiant skin – you MUST start deep within. There’s no way around this truth and it’s all the more crucial to your success when Midlife acne rears its ugly head. (more…)
I am about to turn 54 and have noticed over this past year, I’m developing bad breath, dry mouth and bleeding gums. My gums are also receding and I’m feeling insecure about smiling! I use an electric toothbrush and floss daily but nothing is helping. What’s the matter with me? Ruthie B., Moses Lake, WA
Ruthie, I feel your pain- and probably every Midlife woman reading this does too! Ever heard the expression ‘Long in the tooth’…? Well, we’re there.
With middle age comes receding gums, despite costly dental treatments, high end toothpastes, mouthwashes, bleaching kits and electric toothbrushes. (more…)
One in two women over the age of 50 will suffer a fracture caused by osteoporosis in her remaining lifetime. Despite its prevalence, there are many myths and misconceptions about this “silent” disease. These myths may be a reason why osteoporosis is underdiagnosed and undertreated.
A fragility fracture (breaking a bone by falling from a standing height or lower) can impact day-to-day life, but it can also be an indicator for osteoporosis in postmenopausal women. When you have osteoporosis, even daily tasks such as taking your dog for a walk can put you at risk for a fragility fracture of the wrist, leg or even hip. But, a startling 82 percent of postmenopausal women did not identify such fractures as a possible risk factor for osteoporosis, according to results from a recent online survey of over 1,000 postmenopausal women conducted by Harris Poll on behalf of Radius Health, in partnership with HealthyWomen and the National Osteoporosis Foundation. (more…)
Before your divorce goes through, it will be wise to check up on financial matters. It will be better to assess the state of your financial life before the split rather than after.
Find out where you stand financially. Beyond your salary and your bank accounts, how much do you have in the way of retirement savings? What will your monthly income be? What investments do you hold? Will you retain ownership of any real estate, and assume the mortgage payments yourself? Will you be selling any assets or ownership interests?
You should document everything about your personal finances. Everything you can think of. Whether you scan it or copy it, you should have as complete a picture of your financial life as possible. (more…)
Unpack those fitness limitations and find solutions!
Have you ever heard the quote that goes something like this, “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the made-up story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it?” It comes across as a somewhat harsh self-help rallying cry but I don’t think it is too far off base.
As a health and fitness coach I spend at least 50% of my time hearing about clients’ limitations and the obstacles they face. We chat a lot about the things that are keeping them in a perpetual cycle of poor health, yo-yo dieting, and often physical discomfort. These obstacles seem insurmountable for most people. They feel too big to work around because they have been hiding behind them for so long that it would be frightening to make a change. It would also take a lot of work. It is much easier for us to stay right where we are, doing the same thing we’ve been doing, using the same excuses we’ve been using than to step outside of our comfort zone and plow right through those road blocks. (more…)
For many, the pressure of the holiday season can be enough to wear away the glitter and magic.
Some 62 percent of American adults define their stress as “very or somewhat” elevated over the holidays, says research cited by Harvard Medical School’s Department of Neurobiology.
But that old chestnut doesn’t have to be true for you. When you plan ahead and keep your expectations reasonable, the season can unfold at an even and enjoyable pace, making room for new and happy memories.
That’s doubly true when you’re entertaining. As long as you’re well-prepared, your event can create holiday cheer and goodwill and even strengthen bonds between friends and family. Consider how these entertaining tips can help you stage a minimal-stress, maximum-impact event at which your guests can relax this holiday season. (more…)
“Words turn probability into fact and by sheer force of definition, translate tendencies into habits.” ~ Fay Weldon
My writing career began in the third grade and like a hook in a fish’s mouth, it’s been reeling me in ever since. Telling you how long would be laughable. Trust me: it’s decades! I want to share many reasons for you to write because of how your life will be enhanced. Here’s why: (more…)
Summer is beginning to leave us and the lovely days of autumn are moving in. William Cullen Bryant described Autumn as “the year’s last loveliest smile.” It beckons us all to stop and slow down a little, to watch the changing colors and enjoy the falling leaves. It prepares us for quieter, shorter days and the coming of winter. It truly is my favorite time of the year. Both outside and inside, I love an autumn day. During this change of season, my cooking routine is changing too. I love autumn foods-soups, stews, roasted vegetables and the smell of freshly baked bread. Of course this time of the year we also begin to think about the upcoming holidays, too. So for our next couple of times we share together, let’s talk about some recipes you can use to entertain with, or give as gifts during the holidays. These delightful little holiday breads are three of my favorites that I hope you will enjoy making, eating and giving! (more…)
On August 21, 2017, the first total solar eclipse in 99 years visible from coast to coast became a national event in the U.S. Millions of people drove to be within the band of totality; millions of others viewed the eclipse from their homes and offices through special eclipse glasses. This astronomical event causes us to think about the early women astronomers who helped contribute to our knowledge of the heavens.
This month, we are pleased to feature these women astronomers, Maria Mitchell, Williamina Stevens Fleming, Annie Jump Cannon, Henrietta Swan Leavitt and Vera Rubin.
Healthy diet and lifestyle are our best weapons against age-related diseases.
Becci Twombley is sports dietitian for USC Athletics and Angels Baseball, overseeing the nutrition of 650 collegiate athletes and the 200 players within the Angels organization. The healthy practices she employs to keep her athletes fighting strong also apply as preventative measures for staying fit and active as we age.
“It’s vital at any age to adopt good habits to live a long and healthy life,” says Twombley. “Exercise and move 30 minutes a day and along with that, pay attention to what you put in your body.” Twombley’s prevention plan starts with a “food first” approach. (more…)
If you’re a woman who feels like you’re constantly fighting fatigue, there could be a physical reason for that sluggishness.
In the US, 1 in 10 women, between 12 and 49 years old, are dealing with the results of low iron, according to the Centers for Disease Control, and that can easily lead to extra fatigue and muscle weakness. Unfortunately, iron deficiency is the most common nutrient deficiency worldwide, according to the World Health Organization (WHO), particularly affecting menstruating women, pregnant women, vegans and vegetarians, athletes (especially women) and recent blood donors. (more…)
So even though we’ve all made it through the sweltering heat of summer, many of us are in the midst of our very own personal, perpetual heat wave: Menopause.
And if you’re like most women going through this time of Change, you’re combating the Sweltering Sweats any and every way you can think of, including increased and concentrated antiperspirant use.
Some women have even been told that if they apply antiperspirant to the palms of their hands and around their hairline, this will help calm the clammy drips that so often accompany hot flashes.
Hold on! Not so fast!
There’s a study that was published in the not- too- distant past that many missed. This study was published in the Journal of Applied Toxicology and in it some very alarming connections were made between the aluminum compounds used in antiperspirants and Breast Cancer/ Alzheimer’s development. (more…)
I’m about to turn 60 and have colored my hair for years. I’m getting tired of all the hassle that requires and am thinking about going gray. What do you think about this and what should I know before taking this drastic step? Quinn P., Nashville, TN
Oooh… good question Quinn- and not an easy one to answer! Going gray is a highly personal decision and is not for the faint of heart.
If you’ve been coloring your hair for a very long time, I suspect that your hair color is probably of a darker shade. If this is so, then the only easy way to grow gray gracefully is to get yourself a kicky, short haircut and go through the remaining grow-out process that way.
The only other way to get through the frustrating grow-out process is to cut your hair short and wear wigs while the colored portion of your hair grows out and can be trimmed off. Either way, it’s going to take cutting your hair and then allowing the rest of the colored portion of your hair to grow out, and then cutting again as the gray replaces the colored portion. This isn’t fun and can take time. (more…)
With over-scheduled days full of early-morning conference calls and endless to-do lists, it’s impossible to avoid the stress that comes with working hard. Hand-in-hand with all that pressure, a lack of quality sleep can lead to sleep deprivation, aches and pains, stiffness, sore muscles, tingling or numbness in your extremities, general fatigue, as well as an increased risk of getting sick.
According to the National Sleep Foundation, the average adult needs 7-9 hours of sleep a night. In fact, a survey by Mattress Firm showed a correlation between stress and those who receive less sleep than recommended.
Twice as many stressed people get fewer than five hours of sleep each night compared to those who are not stressed. What’s more, those who are stressed are five times more likely to experience insomnia at least once a month. (more…)
Will your heirs receive a fair share of your wealth? Will your invested assets go where you want them to when you die?
If you have a proper will or estate plan in place, you will likely answer “yes” to both of those questions. The beneficiary forms you filled out years ago for your Individual Retirement Account (IRA), your workplace retirement plan, and your life insurance policy may give you even more confidence about the eventual transfer of your wealth.
One concern still remains, though. You have to tell your heirs that these documents exist. (more…)
Each day we watch the highlight reels on social media. Perfect bodies, perfect families, perfect houses – the list goes on and on. If we believed everything we saw on Facebook it would seem as though we were the only people on earth with any troubles. It is incredibly difficult to keep from getting caught in this comparison trap. Intellectually, we know not to compare ourselves to other people’s photoshopped happiness and perfection. Our emotions are a different story though. Our emotions are sneaky and very susceptible to comparison.
The same holds true in the world of fitness. We are bombarded with images of 6-pack abs and hard bodies, tanned and toned to perfection. We think, “Why don’t I look like that?” or “What am I doing wrong?”. In reality, the bodies in these images are not what we should be striving for. Success looks different on everyone. Healthy does not mean that we are a size 6 or weigh 140 pounds or have abs of steel. Very few people will achieve that without eating broiled cod and broccoli all day long, and that’s not living! Being healthy and fit is about how you FEEL on the inside. It is about your body, but it is also a state of mind. Getting healthy may involve losing a significant amount of weight to get to where you need to be but please don’t make yourself a slave to the scale. The scale never tells the full story and is often given too much power.
As you start your fitness journey turn your attention inward. Be mindful of non-scale victories and celebrate them along the way. Are you clothes fitting better or getting loose? Do you have more energy and find that you are sleeping better? Are you noticing an increase in confidence, general happiness and a bounce in your step that has been missing for some time? All of these things should be just as exciting as seeing that number on the scale drop. (more…)
Our beloved editor had her toes very close to Hurricane Harvey’s spew in August and, with compassion for all who felt his wet wrath including Sandra, it made me think about any lessons we might all learn from such disasters.
Please don’t think I am diminishing or disrespecting the inconvenience and suffering of the many. I am not. I am just waxing philosophical over on the other side of all that because I am absolutely convinced that only good is happening ultimately. I did a bit of research using the good behind Hurricane Harvey in Google and here is some of what I discovered. It’s most interesting. (more…)
Have you tried zoodles or spiralizing yet? It’s such a fun new trend and can really spruce up things at mealtime! The idea has been around for some time, but has really been revolutionized over the last few years. It seems everyone is doing it and you should too. Almost any fruit or vegetable can be spiralized-carrots, zucchini, squashes of all kinds, cucumbers, apples, beets, and cantaloupe are just a few of the items on a very long list of possibilities. Spiralized fruit and vegetables can be boiled, sautéed, stir fried or served raw, and the finished products are low in carbs and many can be used in place of pasta in endless dishes. The devices used to spiralize come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes and are available at prices ranging from under ten dollars to 50 dollars or more. Choose the model that is right for you and give it a try. Have fun with the vast array of beautiful, colorful and oh so tasty ribbons you can create. Here are a few ideas to inspire you in the fun new technique called spiralizing. Enjoy! (more…)
The 2017 book, The Radium Girls, describes the terrible illnesses the women who painted radium dials on clocks and watches for their employers suffered. The book describes how the women’s lawsuits against their employer eventually led to both federal and state legislation to protect employees in the workplace. One of the important figures mentioned in the book is Dr. Alice Hamilton. Dr. Hamilton, who is credited as the founder of the field of occupational medicine, received a Lasker Award in 1947. The Lasker Award recognizes the contributions of scientists, physicians, and public servants who have made major advances in the understanding, diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of human disease. This month, we are pleased to feature Lasker Award recipients Dr. Alice Hamilton, Dr. Florence Sabin, Dr. Helen Brooke Taussig, Eunice Kennedy Shriver, and Nancy Brinker. As well as the Lasker Award, all of these women have been inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame. (more…)
Mobile phones have become an essential part of life for most people, helping them stay connected and increase productivity. However, this technology can also be a distraction when driving, which puts everyone on the road at risk.
More than one-quarter of all car crashes involve phone use, both with handsets and hands-free, the National Safety Council reports. Considering many states and countries don’t yet compile and report data on cellphone use following a crash, this number is likely much higher.
Distracted driving isn’t just an issue for young adults. High technology use means this is a problem across generations. For professionals in particular, the expectation to stay productive and reachable means a constant temptation to use cellphones when driving. (more…)
Are you noticing a golden hue to the sunlight, the earthy aroma of bonfires and a slight chill in the evening air?
As autumn officially kicks in, we’re turning our thoughts to all the good things that come with the season, including football, cozy sweaters, apple orchards, Halloween, Thanksgiving and the warm comfort food that pairs well with crisp fall days. (more…)
In this day and age, it can feel intimidating to even hear the words “fitness” and “nutrition” muttered in the course of polite conversation. The concept of health and fitness has become so confusing and convoluted over the last several years that many of us don’t even know where to begin. We know that we need to do something, but the thought of wading through the piles of contradictory advice and fancy gyms on every corner leaves us feeling defeated and tired.
This recent fitness craze is both good and bad, in my opinion. It is great that people are starting to understand the impact of fitness on their long-term health. We know so much more about exercise physiology now than we did even 5 years ago. There are fantastic options that are effective, efficient, and don’t take 3 hours and lots of equipment. (more…)
You must avoid it. Think about tomorrow, not just today.
Provided by Ronit Rogoszinski, CFP®
No woman wants to end up a “bag lady” – impoverished, out of options, left to fend for herself on the streets. Only a tiny percentage of women from affluent households will experience this retirement nightmare, but that does not mean the risk should be dismissed.
This is the financial circumstance you may fear more than any other. What can you do to counter that fear and guard against running out of money in retirement?
The first step is to plan. You must plan with the knowledge that you might outlive your spouse; that you might spend some, or even all, of your retirement alone. Because of your potentially longer lifespan and the lack of a spousal safety net, it is not unreasonable to assume that you may need 150% of the retirement money that a man in your situation might need. That may be stunning, but it is worth realizing. Imagine your children having to bear the financial burden of taking care of you when you are elderly. If you have no children, imagine having to rely on welfare and Medicaid at that time. Surely that is not the future you imagine or want. (more…)
It seems like just yesterday you brought her home and made her a part of the family. If you own a cat or dog, you have fond memories of your furry family member from day one.
Fast forward to today. Just like with people, age sometimes creeps up slowly on pets. Every pet is unique, so changes happen at different times. What’s more, age-related changes can be easy to miss because they appear so gradually over time.
Being aware and proactive is the best thing pet parents can do to help their aging pets stay healthy as they age. The American Animal Hospital Association (AAHA) recommends that pets have a senior screening at about age 7. This allows the veterinarian to address any current concerns or potential health risks, including nutritional considerations. (more…)
When September and fall arrive, students head back to school and college. Although women college presidents are more prevalent today than ever, there is still a long way to go before we reach parity. This month, we are pleased to feature Elizabeth Agassiz, M. Carey Thomas, Johnnetta B. Cole, Donna Shalala, Shirley Ann Jackson, and Drew Gilpin Faust. Before we share their stories, think about the words of the cultural anthropologist, Margaret Mead. She wrote:
If we are to achieve a richer culture, rich in contrasting values, we must recognize the whole gamut of human potentialities, and so weave a less arbitrary social fabric, one in which each diverse human gift will find a fitting place. (more…)
Do you ever wonder what’s holding you back? A lot of people have all the skills and opportunities they need to reach their personal and professional goals, yet they fail to truly succeed.
In reality, the path to success isn’t so clear, and when you add fear and doubt into the mix, it’s easy to lose drive. Smart entrepreneurs know that success is more than just raw ability; it comes from having certain traits and staying dedicated through all the highs and lows of the journey.
Here are a few important aspects of those traits to help you reach your full potential: (more…)
As the sun shines through the curtains, you hit the snooze button again. Suddenly you bolt up, realizing you’re running late. You skip breakfast, grab your bag and rush out the door. Stress levels skyrocket and your day has barely begun.
The race against the clock at the start of the day is a common problem. Mornings shouldn’t be difficult and certainly not something you dread. To get out the door on time and with a grin on your face, consider these nine no-fail breakfast tips. (more…)
Ask your most pressing Midlife Skin Care/Health/Beauty Questions and get answers!
I’m 54 years old and for the past 10 years my fingernails have all but stopped growing. My nails stay stubby, break and peel a lot and no matter what I try, I can’t get them to grow or strengthen. I’ve spent a fortune on high end nail growth treatments and cuticle creams but nothing works. I’m embarrassed at how my hands look now. What’s wrong and how do I fix it?! Annabelle Q.- Cupertino, CA (more…)
Arriving at Midlife is a privilege not everyone receives.
Reaching Midlife is indeed an achievement, and to some, all the blotches, wrinkles, gray hairs and pooch-y places that go along with it are a Badge of Honor; a testament to one’s endurance, stamina and bravery. Yet to others, those hallmark signs of Aging are unwelcome. VERY, VERY unwelcome. But there’s only so much that mainstream skin care products and protocols can do to help us cope with these Midlife issues- let alone overcome them.
If you’ve been a regular reader of this column – and also the Ask Carrie segment of Kalon Women Magazine – you know I’ve done everything within my power to arm you with all you need to know to make your skin care and beauty regimens as potent, effective and affordable as possible. You will also note that I’ve always stressed the importance of regular exfoliation as a way to keep skin fresh looking, polished and radiant. For the Record: There’s exfoliation and there’s EXFOLIATION. (more…)
Female Menopause is NOT a ‘Women Only’ rite of passage. Far from it!
The process can -and often does- tear marriages and longstanding relationships apart, destroy families and cast hearts, minds, spirits- and inanimate objects adrift.
Female Menopause -mishandled- can be a nightmare for all parties involved, and women have done their mates and themselves a great disservice by shutting men out of the process and out of the bedroom. (more…)
Small businesses still struggle to obtain credit; nearly half of those who applied for credit in 2016 didn’t get all the funding they sought, and 17 percent of those who didn’t apply for financing skipped it because they didn’t think they could get what they needed, according to the Federal Reserve Banks’ Small Business Credit Survey. However, a growing number of small businesses are turning to alternative sources of financing. (more…)
I was going to write on a different topic this month but when I received Marsha’s question in the Ask Carrie column, I realized that given we’re all now in the peak of the summer outdoor season, perhaps it might be a better service to you fine Kalon Women Magazine readers, to address instead EVERYTHING you MUST know to properly care for your skin – from head to toe.
We all know I’ve written on this subject before but never before in such a complete, Compendium-esque way. (more…)
“My daughter is constantly on me about not using my loofah or those body scrubbers (which I use all the time) anymore. She says it damages my skin more than it helps. Is that true? Is there a downside to using them? My friends also say they harbor bacteria…what’s a girl to believe?” -Marsha P.
GREAT question Marsha. I’m so glad you wrote in!
First of all, how blessed you are to have a daughter who loves you and cares for you as she does. Such a gift and blessing! (more…)
The protagonist of the movie Wonder Woman fearlessly pursues her passion. Many women on whose shoulders we all stand pursued their passions as well – passions that have provided significant benefits for society as a whole. In this month’s column, we profile some wonder women who changed the world. We are pleased to feature Eliza Lucas Pinckney, Harriet Beecher Stowe, Rosa Parks, Annie Dodge Wauneka, and Dolores Huerta. Let’s share their stories.
Born in about 1722, Eliza Lucas Pinckney was running three plantations in what is today South Carolina when she was a teenager! The family had moved from the West Indies to the colonies in hopes of restoring her mother’s health. Pinckney was quite enterprising and encouraged by her father, who was in military service in Antigua, she experimented with a variety of crops. The demand for rice had decreased and the British wanted a supply of indigo which was not provided by the French. Pinckney’s perseverance in experimentation was rewarded – the 1744 indigo crop was a good success. Indigo would sustain the economy of the Carolinas (not yet split into North and South) for thirty years, until the advent of the Revolutionary War. After she married, Pinckney had four children, three of whom survived to adulthood. One son would sign the U.S. Constitution. The other would serve as governor of South Carolina. When Pinckney died, General George Washington requested that he be a pallbearer at her funeral. (more…)
Your financial future is up to you … and no one else.
Provided by Ronit Rogoszinski, CFP®
Will this be your future? Did you know that 30% of American women age 65 and older rely on Social Security for 90% or more of their incomes? Did you know that SSI represents virtually the only source of income for 36% of unmarried, divorced or widowed American women who are 65 and older?1
As Rep. Carolyn Maloney (D-NY) expressed a few years back, “Social Security is literally a lifeline for most elderly women.” That lifeline is barely adequate. The average woman 65 or older gets $13,100 from America’s retirement program annually. (Men in the same age group receive an average of $17,200 a year in SSI.)1,2
With inflation and other economic pressures, a mature woman relying on Social Security income may have to choose between food or medicine, or rent or car repair, or contend with other stressful money dilemmas. (more…)
Emerson once acknowledged, “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”
As every parent ultimately realizes, we get only one chance to raise our children. A brief moment in time to instill discipline, confidence and self-respect, while also teaching them to be a successful part of something larger than self.
I played baseball, football, basketball and track as a boy. As a parent I actually coached forty youth soccer teams and was a high school referee for years. Surrounded by many more critics than volunteers, we continued our important work. Consequently, nearly 500 young boys and girls learned a little something about Soccer, and hopefully a little more about life. (more…)
Cooking for one can sometimes be a difficult task, but with a little careful planning it doesn’t have to be, and it sure beats eating something out of a can or a box or the frozen food section. You can easily prepare a meal for one that you would be happy to serve special company. And you can set a beautiful table for one with some great thrift store finds. I love collecting plates and am on the lookout for sweet ones everywhere I go. Most can be found for less than a dollar. The same is true of pretty goblets and flatware. So for now, YOU are the honored guest. Set a table with a pretty little plate and linen napkin and invite yourself to a meal made for a very special person – YOU! (more…)
During my growing up years, I heard the stories of the women and men in my family and with my fertile imagination, they impressed me deeply.
I am the First Daughter of a First Daughter. My mother was the First Daughter of a First Daughter. My grandmother was the First Daughter of a First Daughter and my great grandmother was the First Daughter of a First Daughter. Who knew if it went back yet another generation? This “First Daughter” idea was cute and appealing to me when I first learned it during my grade school years.
Subsequently, another layer was added to that story and this was an ugly layer. My grandma and her mother had both died of pancreatic cancer. In those days, pancreatic cancer was considered incurable. And then my mom manifested pancreatic cancer at the age of 58 and passed away the following year. (more…)
By Brandy A. Schaffels for AskPatty
The sunny days of summer are here, which means that now is the time to be especially aware of your sun exposure. Skin cancer is the most common cancer in the United States. The sun’s ultraviolet (UV) radiation is associated with most cases of skin cancer, which will affect one in five Americans over a lifetime.
Each year in the U.S. more than 5.4 million cases of non-melanoma skin cancer are treated in more than 3.3 million people. SkinCancer.org estimated 76,380 new cases of invasive melanoma were diagnosed in the U.S. in 2016.
When I drove a convertible, I always kept sunscreen in the glovebox and baseball caps on the back seats to protect my passengers from the sun. Living in sunny Los Angeles meant my top was down a lot, so sunscreen and hat/ponytail hair were a part of my daily routine. (more…)
Summer is the perfect time to turn over a new you. With the arrival of warm weather, a relaxed schedule and summer vacations, this is the moment to invest in a new wardrobe and, of course, a new, healthier menu. When you think of summer cuisine, light and flavorful is the order of the day, and nothing captures that order quite like a fresh, vibrant summer salad.
Salads can be so much more than just a healthy lunch or dinner choice, thanks to their minimal prep requirements and the boatload of benefits they can deliver, such as the five posted below. So, take a mindful turn toward salads this summer and enjoy their many perks. (more…)
The benefits from gardening are endless — relaxation, fitness, family fun, delicious food and beautifying your lawn. Across the country, millions of people live in townhomes, apartments or single-family homes that seem to lack the outdoor space needed for a conventional garden. But the good news is that no matter where you live you can still create a garden that reflects your goals and is uniquely personal to you.
Raised bed gardens may be the perfect solution. This type of gardening is gaining popularity not only because it can be adjusted to fit any size requirements, but because it is prone to fewer weeds, reduced soil erosion and fewer soil challenges that can arise in areas where the ground is inherently sandy or clay-based. Raised bed gardens also offer you the opportunity to customize your garden bed with beautiful accents and decorations that will make it look as amazing as the food it produces. (more…)
How do we know when it’s time to give up the keys? It can be hard to admit your vision isn’t what it used to be, especially when it comes to driving. Maybe you’ve noticed some difficulties reading traffic signals, or you’ve found it challenging to drive at night.
If you’re a family member noticing these warning signs in a loved one, pointing out these challenges may seem like a daunting and delicate undertaking. But when it comes to being on the road, safety is one thing you can’t ignore.
Encouraging your loved one to prioritize safety can be hard, especially when it feels like their independence is at stake. That’s why it’s important to have an open and honest discussion to determine the best options for maintaining independence outside the home. (more…)
If you’re a woman do you even need it? Unfortunately there is still the idea that drive and getting ahead seem to be eternally equated with high levels of testosterone. Testicular Fortitude is a term to describe a person who is successful in their chosen field.
Well it seems that women are doing just fine without testicular fortitude; We have our own unique brand of fortitude and it is working. According to the Survey of Earned Doctorates, 2014 was the tenth year in a row in which the majority of research doctorates awarded to U.S. citizens went to women. Women now earn 57 percent of bachelor degrees and 59 percent of masters degrees. More doctorates are awarded to women than men in the humanities, social sciences, education, and life sciences and medicine. Women now serve as presidents of Harvard, MIT, Princeton, the University of Pennsylvania and other leading research universities. Their position in the corporate world has increased exponentially as well. (more…)
By the age of 50, every woman should have acquired:
- An old boyfriend who makes you smile with melancholy when you remember him and an old boyfriend who makes you proud of how far you’ve come.
- A piece of furniture that has never been previously owned by anyone in your family that you bought with your own money and makes you happy.
- An outfit that makes you feel invincible if your future employer or man of your dreams calls to meet you in an hour.
- A set of lingerie that you would not be ashamed to be seen wearing.
- At least one scar on your heart where HE hurt you.
- A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
- The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
- An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
- A dream so big it scares you.
- At least One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
- A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a pair of totally unpractical shoes.
- Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
- The belief that you are worthy of treating yourself with respect.
- A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, a push-up bra and a great pair of spankx
- At least One recipe you cook well to impress the fussiest of guests
- A place to go just to think… where you can be completely alone with your thoughts.
- At least one child who looks to you for guidance and advice…even if he or she isn’t your own.
- The knowledge on how to break-up with a man or confront a friend without losing your temper or your self respect.
- At least one lover who knew exactly how to touch you to make your toes curl.
- The memory of a kiss so powerful…just the thought of it could sustain you into old age.
- The medical history that runs in your family so you can take care of YOU!
- The ability to live on your own and not be dependent on anyone.
- An outfit that feels like you are in a cocoon and safe from the world…its usually fleece or flannel
- The ability to let go of the hurts from your childhood and embrace the fact that your parents did the best they could with the skills they had
- One secret that makes you smile.
- A memory that makes you cringe….because those memories were lessons that brought you to here
- A journal full of your deepest thoughts
- A person you can call at 4 in the morning because you’re in a bind
- The knowledge of what you are willing to accept and what you are not in a relationship
- Something you do that’s just for you and no one else.
- A piece of jewelry that has sentimental meaning
- An older woman in your life who embodies the traits you wanna develop in your old age.
- A spirituality that feeds your spirit and nourishes your soul.
- A soundtrack to your life that when you hear it on the radio you sing at the top of you lungs
- Someone or something you LOVE with your whole heart
- A to do list that never gets completely checked off
- Enough money to run away in case you have to
- A purpose to rise out of bed every morning
- The ability to look in a mirror and love the ripples and bumps and wrinkles that stare back at you….because you earned them all over time.
- The ability to say NO without having to add anything further.
- A hobby that you can get lost in for hours.
- A hole in your heart from losing someone you have loved deeply…
- Done at least one thing kind for someone that has no way to ever repay your kindness…
- A “Been there – Done that” T-shirt to starting over from scratch..whether it be from a divorce, a career change, a massive loss or surviving life’s curve ball.
- A photo album full of memories..even if it’s on a flash drive or saved to the cloud.
- A passport… Up to date and ready to be stamped for the next adventure.
- At least one grey hair, wrinkle and saggy body part…. If you don’t.. Something’s wrong.
- An accomplishment that’s all yours…outside of your children, not tied to your spouse…something you have done or created all on your own.
- The knowledge of who you are as a woman. What makes you happy and what is no longer tolerated.
- The understanding that 50 is not over the hill…its not even close to the hill…. There is no hill even on the horizon….cuz you still have shit to do….
NOTE: This was not written by Kalon Women. We would be happy to give credit to the original author if anyone knows who it is definitively
How many of us, especially when we were younger, have looked at our parents or grandparents and shook our heads, not understanding how they could possibly still be together? The thought of them actually loving each other probably didn’t even enter our minds.
The still common perception about ‘old’ love is that at best it’s turned into a habit. After 20 or 30 or more years together, couples just seem to co-habit instead of LOVE living together, instead of LOVING each other.
It turns out that the rose-colored glasses that we wore in our ’20s and ’30s are not giving us the vision that we need. And it turns out that all kinds of older men and women are so fantastically in love with each other, that they make The Notebook seem like kid’s play. (more…)
Muumuus and mom jeans or spangled capris and Aloha shirts — is this really all the fashion world has to offer women over the age of 60? Do mature women who desire to dress fashionably for summer really have to choose between “frumpy and fogey” or “too young and trendy?”
Not at all, says Catherine Brock, who blogs about style on thebudgetfashionista.com.
“Reaching a certain age doesn’t mean you have to give up your love of fashion, or that you can’t be stylish,” Brock says. “In our youth-obsessed society, many fashion trends are geared for young women, but truly stylish clothing can work for women of any age.” (more…)
We have all known couples whose marriages are basically over but, who, for the sake of their children, stayed together. They are not legally separated in the traditional manner and they are willing to forego a divorce to stay together as a family unit. It is a workable arrangement for all.
But what about couples who have adult children or no children at all? Why would they stay together in the netherworld of the “not-quite-divorced?” (more…)
Do you wish you could just snap your fingers like a genie and make your desires all come true? Are you one of the people who have been learning, understanding and using The Law of Attraction, or does it all just seem like nice words with kind of vague concepts? Do your background and your upbringing have you relying on something other than your Self to pray for such answers?
Sometimes, if it appears too good to be true, it is. That is not the case when it comes to manifesting what you want. Regardless of your childhood trainings, you can learn to manifest with the best of them. I’m smiling when I tell you that you can walk across any lake once you learn where the rocks are. Yes, kind of like that. (more…)
Recently a very good friend was terminated from a position she truly thought was her dream job. Spending long hours, and expending enormous time and energy to do her absolute best for this job was something she didn’t mind doing. She was very good at what she did. The reason for the termination was nothing more than a personality conflict with her immediate supervisor who, by the accounts of many co-workers, was a difficult person to work with.
My friend is having a hard time getting over not having the job that she really loved and at which she excelled. Letting go of what occurred and walking away from a closed door is difficult. It is human nature to want to stop and bang on that door in the fierce hope that it will open up again and let us in. (more…)
Over the course of the past year, I’ve hosted several cream- of- the- crop Physicians and Naturopaths on the ‘Magnificent Menopause and Beyond©’ radio show and I’ve noticed a trend that fills me with hope; each one of these stellar guests has stated two things emphatically and with unflinching clarity:
- Cholesterol is VITALLY important to overall health and vitality. Our bodies can’t and won’t function without it.
- Statin drugs are one of the most dangerous class of drugs on the market and are setting up a new -and much younger- generation of Alzheimer’s patients, more numerous and younger than we’ve ever known before…
It’s been said that FEAR stands for “Forget Everything And Run.” It’s that uncomfortable, disconcerting feeling that causes us to take a back seat in our own life and prevents us from proactively moving forward to reach our goals and aspirations. Instead of facing a situation head on and taking control of the proverbial handlebars of life, fear causes us to turn the other way, freeze in our tracks, or poke our head in the sand.
One way to counteract fear’s adverse impact on your life is to recognize the type of fear that might be defining you and driving your actions – or lack thereof. (more…)
Tax season is a busy time for everyone. From accountants and small business owners to families and individuals, especially as more people choose to file their taxes themselves. Unfortunately, it’s also a busy time of year for cybercriminals who use the flurry of activity to swindle sensitive personal information from unsuspecting victims.
In fact, the Norton Cyber Security Insights Reports revealed that online crime has become so prolific, 36 percent of U.S. consumers believe it’s only a matter of time before a criminal steals their identity. (more…)
The millennial mom-to-be uses an app to track her fertility and pregnancy progress, pins nursery ideas on Pinterest and researches baby gear on YouTube. She reads online advice on everything from what to eat (or not), to when to talk to a doctor about prescription prenatal vitamins and what to do with the placenta after delivering.
Never without a smartphone in hand, armed with an app for everything, always connected or “on,” millennials were born in an era of emerging technology between 1980 and 1995, and have grown up in an ever-increasing digitally-enhanced environment. Access to technology and social media has defined every aspect of her life, including the expectant millennial’s approach to pregnancy. It’s a drastically different world than when her own mother was pregnant. (more…)
Intrigued by all the brain-training products out there to keep your mind sharp and spirits young? You may want to consider something else: A hearing test.
That’s right. Mounting evidence links untreated hearing loss to impaired memory and diminished cognitive function. What that means is, if you keep brushing off that suspected hearing loss of yours, your cognition may pay.
Researchers have found that when people with unaddressed hearing loss strain to hear, they tend to do more poorly on memory tests. They may figure out what is being said, but because so much effort goes into just hearing it, their ability to remember what they heard often suffers.
Experts believe this has to do with what they call “cognitive load.” That is, in order to compensate for the hearing loss and make out the words, people with untreated hearing loss may draw on cognitive resources they’d normally use to remember what they’ve heard. Experts say that untreated hearing loss may even interfere with the person’s ability to accurately process and make sense of what was said or heard.
In fact, research shows that people with poorer hearing have less gray matter in the auditory cortex, a region of the brain needed to support speech comprehension.
Other research shows a link between hearing loss and dementia. One Johns Hopkins study found that seniors with hearing loss are significantly more likely to develop dementia over time than those who retain their hearing. Another found that hearing loss is associated with accelerated cognitive decline in older adults. And a third revealed a link between hearing loss and accelerated brain tissue loss.
Some experts believe that interventions, like professionally fitted hearing aids, could potentially help.
The bottom line is we actually “hear” with our brain, not with our ears.
So if you think you may have hearing loss, do something about it. Make an appointment with a hearing health care professional, and get a hearing test.
After all, research suggests that treating hearing loss may be one of the best things you can actually do to help protect your memory and cognitive function.
The Better Hearing Institute (BHI) offers a free, confidential online hearing check where people can determine if they need a more comprehensive hearing test by a hearing health care professional. Access the BHI Hearing Check at www.BetterHearing.org.
A few years ago, a Harris Interactive-sponsored poll* found that Americans consider 50 to be the “perfect age” to live forever in good health. For many, the half-century mark can be a time when experience and opportunity balance perfectly — as told by the saying “50 is the new 30.” At 50 there may be more time to spend on your hobbies or other activities that interest you. (more…)
To lose weight and/or get in better shape consistently ranks as one of the top New Year’s resolutions. However, many resolutions to reach this goal fall short or last less than a month because a great idea is seldom successful without a plan to make it happen.
If you’ve tried and failed to get in shape or lose weight as part of a New Year’s resolution, it’s time to put a plan behind your passion. Below are five tips from BiPro’s 31 Ways in 31 Days challenge. They are appropriate for all ages and fitness levels, so use them to start your own wellness resolution, whether it’s on Jan. 1, March 1 or whenever you’re ready to make a healthy change. (more…)
For one reason or another, you’ve determined the house you’re living in has become too much to handle. Seniors, empty nesters or those moving from a suburban home into a loft or apartment in the city all face similar challenges when it comes to downsizing.
For example, after Judy Raphael’s husband was diagnosed with dementia and moved to a nursing home, it became difficult for her to take care of her large house the couple had lived in for 23 years. At first, Raphael tried to maintain the house by herself, but things started to pile up and soon the house was in need of serious repairs. (more…)
A single choice doesn’t matter most of the time. Having dessert one night, taking a walk on another and deciding to skip an outing with friends aren’t life changing choices. A daily choice is small, like a pebble. But like pebbles, when you keep reaching for the same choices, they can amass into something significant.
If you want to improve your heart health, science tells us that making simple lifestyle changes can make a huge difference. And better heart health is undoubtedly on the minds of many Americans. One in three adults live with one or more types of cardiovascular disease, according a review published in the journal Circulation. Over time, changes in the heart and blood vessels can lead to a host of devastating problems, including heart attack, heart failure and stroke. (more…)
Shared meals and get-togethers are among the holidays’ best moments, but they can also be the most stressful. In fact, 90 percent of Americans feel stress during the holidays, a Healthline survey found – and holiday cooking was cited as one of the stress-drivers.
“Cooking family recipes and feasting with your loved ones is what makes the holiday season so special,” says Chef Jason Vincent of Giant restaurant in Chicago. “And there are some simple steps that are meant to relieve meal-prep stress and improve the taste of dishes so families can make the most of their meals in the kitchen and focus on celebrating traditions around the dinner table.”
If you ever wondered how chefs effortlessly whip up a big meal, wonder no more. Chef Vincent offers six tried and true tips for acing holiday meal prep along with a delicious recipe for your leftover turkey: (more…)
You want to be healthier, right? But try as you might, it always seems like something’s standing in your way. Time and money are two of the largest obstacles, and you may think it’s impossible to improve your health without a significant time or financial investment.
The good news is, however, that’s not true. Even the smallest changes can have a big impact on your health, and you can start improving your wellness today with these six simple steps. (more…)
This was originally featured on Reviews.com: http://www.reviews.com/medical-alert-systems/
Nearly 90 percent of seniors say they prefer to live in their own homes, and most expect to stay there. It’s called “aging in place” and put simply: no assisted living facilities. Family members want to respect these wishes, but the risks are real. According to the National Council on Aging, one in three adults age 65 and older experience a fall each year, let alone other emergencies. The best medical alert systems address these risks with reliable devices that can connect seniors with help, keeping them safely independent — and giving family members one less thing to worry about. Our top pick, Bay Alarm Medical, goes even further with attentive, personable service. In an emergency, we’d feel comfortable with a loved one in the company’s hands.
LifeCall popularized the personal emergency response system (PERS) with infomercials in the 1980s — “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” — and while the technology has come a long way, their core function hasn’t: Press a button and you’re in touch with someone who can send help. (more…)
Juggling family, work and obligations can be enough to stress anyone out in today’s hectic world. If you need a breather now and then, the Mayo Clinic suggests seven ways to slow down, regroup and refocus:
- Exercise – A quick jog in the midst of a chaotic day—or even a brisk walk around the block—can get feel-good endorphins going.
- Connect – Your stress instinct may be to wrap yourself in a cocoon. Instead, reach out to family and friends—doing so can offer distraction and provide support.
- Meditate – Close your eyes for a few minutes—visualizing places you enjoy can help quiet the competing thoughts crowding your mind and causing stress.
- Journal – Writing down your thoughts can help release pent-up emotion. Don’t think about what to write — just let it happen. Don’t worry about grammar or spelling, either!
- Flex – Try yoga—just 10 minutes of controlled poses can help you slow down and relax. Take a class, or research online for some guidance to get started.
- Listen – Listening to (or playing) music is a stress reliever because it decreases stress hormones and reduces muscle tension. Set aside 15 minutes or so and let your mind absorb it.
- Laugh – Laughter fires up and then cools down your stress response. Get the giggles in by hanging out with friends in the break room, reading a few jokes (or telling some!), or watching a half-hour comedy.
Grandparents play a unique, important role in caring for family members of all ages. Here are some ways that you can help keep babies and moms safe and healthy.
Helping babies sleep safely
Grandparents can help reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) and other sleep-related causes of infant death. To help your grandbaby sleep safely, make sure you: (more…)
Virtually everyone struggles with a lack of self-confidence at some point in their lives and it’s perfectly normal to feel unsure of yourself in certain situations. However, if you find a lack of confidence is holding you back from fully enjoying your personal life, or achieving your professional goals, it may be time to take action.
“There are actually steps you can take to rebuild your confidence, even when you’re struggling to feel self-assured,” says Susie Moore, a motivational speaker, best-selling author and life coach. “Confidence is a real-life super power that affects every aspect of your life, from your relationships to your career and social life, but it’s also more attainable than you think.”
Moore shares tips on how you can be your most confident self and live a fulfilled, unconditional life: (more…)
Keep on cruising with a regular maintenance schedule for your joint health!
Whether it’s a brand-new Bentley or a classic 1970 Mustang, most people have a car they dream about. If they’re lucky enough to own it someday, you better believe they’re going to take care of it. Regular maintenance is an essential part of keeping a vehicle in tip-top shape. The same is true of the human body, particularly the joints. (more…)
No one really relishes the idea of growing older and experiencing the health issues that can accompany aging. If there was one thing you could do to significantly improve your chances of staying mentally sharp, physically healthy and independent throughout your golden years, wouldn’t you do it?
Exercise has health benefits for people of all ages, and it’s especially important for seniors. Regular exercise can allow people 65 and older to live independently, reduce their risks of falling and breaking bones, and lower their chances of developing serious illnesses like cancer, heart disease, joint issues, diabetes and high blood pressure, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Yet only about 40 percent of Americans between 65 and 74 meet physical activity guidelines, and activity levels decrease even more as people grow older, the CDC says. (more…)
Now that your kids have launched lives of their own, you may be considering how to maximize the extra space they left behind.
Making renovations can be a fun way to turn their now-empty rooms into a useful and/or relaxing space for your own enjoyment. And your timing could be spot on; a recent survey found half of empty nesters of pre-retirement age are opting to stay in their family homes instead of downsizing. (more…)
We all love the convenience of modern cellphones. They’re so much more than just phones – they’ve become our cameras, calendars, mailboxes, entertainment consoles and internet browsers.
But all those apps, photos, videos and games compete for a limited amount of room in which to operate. If you’re not careful, your phone’s memory will quickly become the digital equivalent of a traffic jam. Suddenly, space is hard to come by, so everything slows down – and when it does, we no longer love our cellphone quite so much. (more…)
You’re running out the door, already late and thinking about that important 8 a.m. meeting. Lunch is the last thing on your mind. In fact, you usually just pick something up from the deli line or local fast food place and hurry back to your desk. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Only one in five people actually ditch their desks during their lunch hour. When you feel your stomach growl, it’s all too easy to grab something from the vending machine or – if you remember – to pack a cold turkey sandwich. But there are plenty of easy ways to spice up your lunchtime routine at work.
Here are some tips to improve your mediocre midday meal and ditch your desk : (more…)
You get your fill of vitamins C and D by eating oranges and soaking in a little sun each day, which is good for your body and mind. Small habits like these can have a big impact on your overall health and help you feel your best each day. However, vitamins C and D aren’t the only vitamins your body needs to thrive. Take vitamin E, for example. This overlooked vitamin is essential to our well-being and yet, many people don’t know anything about it. Let’s take a moment to learn about the super vitamin, and what you can do to get your daily intake. (more…)
Moving back home to live with parents after college no longer carries a stigma.
Boomers housing boomerang kids is the new normal, says blogger Mary Quigley in a recent AARP.org feature on the subject. Quigley cites one survey that found millennials believe it’s acceptable to live with parents for up to five years after completing college. (more…)
While teenagers are the age group most associated with suicide risk, the terrible truth is that another group is killing themselves at even higher rates: seniors.
Adults aged 65 to 84 are nearly twice as likely to commit suicide as 15 to 24-year-olds, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. Beyond age 85, the suicide risk is 70 percent higher.
What’s even more concerning is older adults are six times more likely than teens to complete their suicide attempts. Unlike younger people, seniors are more decisive and more likely to have access to lethal means.
Why are seniors attempting suicide at such astonishing rates? The Institute on Aging’s Friendship Line provides insight. At the country’s only free 24-hour crisis call center for seniors and disabled adults, trained volunteers speak with seniors for a variety of reasons. (more…)
What does oatmeal, beans and skinless chicken have in common? They are all heart healthy foods, yet don’t do a whole lot to tantalize the taste buds. Fortunately, eating for heart health doesn’t mean a life sentence of bland foods or boring flavors.
By thinking beyond the oatmeal box, you can reinvent your meals while keeping heart health top of mind. This is important for everyone because heart disease – which includes stroke and other cardiovascular diseases – is the No. 1 cause of death in the United States, according to the American Heart Association.
Mindful eating is one of the best ways to maintain heart health. With these 10 heart-healthy foods, you won’t mind sitting down to a wholesome meal that supports the hardest working muscle in your body. (more…)
It’s the sixth-leading cause of death in the United States, affects more than 5 million Americans and one out of every three seniors will die from it. Yet misconceptions surround Alzheimers disease.
Contrary to what many people think about Alzheimers, it’s not a normal part of growing older. And while there’s not yet a way to prevent, cure or even slow the progression of the disease, people with Alzheimers can benefit from detecting it early. During June – Alzheimer’s & Brain Awareness Month – the Alzheimer’s Association is encouraging everyone to learn the truth about Alzheimer’s disease. (more…)
You’ll likely host a party or two this summer, and you want it to be an event guests remember. From dinner parties and backyard barbecues to an easy Sunday morning get-together, the most important thing at the end of the day is that you, along with your guests, have a really great time. Why entertain otherwise?
“Creating a seamless summer party is all about preparation,” says Nate Berkus, noted interior designer and artistic advisor to LG Studio. “I always tell people the most important thing is that everyone, including the host, is enjoying themselves. Make sure you brew coffee ahead of time, set out a pitcher of lemonade and decorate with a bouquet of fresh flowers. Don’t over-complicate anything from food to decor, and everything else will fall into place.”
Tips to Create the Perfect Summer Bash:
Seniors are one of the five groups most at-risk for identity theft, according to a report from U.S. News & World Report. Because your cellphone or smartphone likely contains personal information about you that may include your name, home address, phone number and financial account information, a lost, stolen or hacked phone can be a treasure trove for criminals.
It’s everywhere — inside as well as outside your home. As digital device usage increases, you’re exposed to more and more of it without realizing how it may affect your vision in the future. We’re talking about blue light. (more…)
The fact is, aging women and men differ in the diseases they face and their exercise and health needs.
Heart disease is the leading cause of death for women around the world – closely followed by breast cancer. Because most medical conditions and ailments that women face can be controlled and sometimes treated, there is a great possibility of reducing the number of deaths attributed to these illnesses.
Research has shown that a healthy diet, exercise and regular medical checkups are the key ingredients for healthy aging for women.
In this infographic, The University of Florida Online took a closer look at health issues that face women as they age and strategies to help prevent many of the diseases and illnesses they face.